Advice to my younger self

Just the other day on my long car ride home. I began reflecting on experiences that shaped me into who I am today. I remember one in particular because it happened often…

 Growing up I was bullied a lot. It started very early and continued through middle school. I remember in 7th grade one of the mean girls waited for me outside the classroom and stuck her foot out to purposely trip me. As I got older I developed a self defense mechanism. I learned to speak the truth and say what I felt in my heart was right. Shutting down was a process I became all to familiar with, there was a wall that I couldn’t get over. I felt as though I didn’t ‘fit in’ in a lot of situations. That they couldn’t relate and so I couldn’t open up. To be selective and cautious of people.

I learned there’s a difference between someone intentionally trying to hurt me; (because they’re fighting a battle I know nothing about.) Versus someone who unknowingly says hurtful things without thinking how I would feel. Then those who are genuinely sorry, and think the best of me. The management is the same – forgiveness. I choose not to categorize people. When the tunnel seems dark know that if you keep walking through it, you’ll eventually see the light. If you keep love in your heart. With time things will resolve, relationships and life do get better. Always remember to keep the faith.

This isn’t a sob story… This is for girls going through a tough time in life. For the person who feels the sting of rejection. Its kind of weird to say but I’m thankful for this experience, its such small chapter but I wouldn’t be the resilient, confident, compassionate person I am today without it. My hope is that this is helpful to you and a small reminder of the goodness that can come out of it. Always strive to see the good in others. Continue to be your beautiful, sweet, unique self.  Know that the battle is not yours alone. Keep your words good and encouraging, be a light for someone. Don’t let the world steal your joy. “Life experiences can either make you bitter or better”. Always choose the latter.